A Parent’s Guide to Empty Nest Syndrome
Congratulations, you’ve done it! One thing for sure is that your kids will grow up and most likely move out of the house. But now that the house is empty, you’re feeling a little lost (and maybe even a little lonely). If this sounds familiar, don’t worry—you’re not alone. You may be experiencing what’s known as “empty nest syndrome.” Let’s take a look at what it is, why it happens, and how to cope with it. As you can see our best was quite full; this was our last Christmas before high school graduations started in 2018.
What is Empty Nest Syndrome?
Empty nest syndrome is an emotional condition that some parents experience when their children move away from home for college or to start a career. It can come with feelings of loss and grief as well as anxiety and depression. While these feelings are normal, they can also be difficult to cope with. Maggie Wooll writes a wonderful article; be sure to check it out.
Why Does Empty Nest Syndrome Happen?
Empty nest syndrome happens because parents become so used to having their children around that when they move away, there is an adjustment period where they have to get used to being alone again. This adjustment period can be hard because parents not only miss their children but also the role that they played in their lives—being a cheerleader for every accomplishment, being there for every major life event, etc.
How Can Parents Cope With Empty Nest Syndrome?
Stay Connected With Technology
We live in an age where staying connected is easier than ever before thanks to technology like cell phones, emails, and video chats. Take advantage of these tools by scheduling regular calls and video chats with your kids so you can stay up-to-date on what’s going on in their lives from afar. And don’t forget about good old fashioned snail mail! Send them cards or letters every once in a while so they know you care—even if it’s just a funny postcard or two!
We make sure we have a lot of calls & FaceTime calls with our adult children to stay connected. We also try to bring back souvenirs for them for our travels.
Take up New Hobbies
The best way to cope with empty nest syndrome is to focus on yourself and your own interests and goals. Take up new hobbies or activities that bring you joy and make time for self-care like exercising or meditating. Take up a new hobby like painting or gardening; join a club; travel; volunteer at an animal shelter—whatever makes you happy! Not only will this help fill your time, but it could also bring some joy back into your life when things feel a bit lonely without your kiddos around.
We have taken up weight training, hiking and pickle ball; our traveling schedule has also increased since we’ve become empty nesters.
Embrace Their Independence
Letting go is tough, especially when it comes to our kids. But try not to look at their leaving as goodbye forever—instead think of it as “see you soon!” As hard as it may be, embracing their independence is ultimately for the best. After all, this is part of what parenting is all about—teaching our children how to become independent adults who can stand on their own two feet eventually!
We feel like we trained our kids to become worthwhile citizens in their communities; we had no problem embracing their independence.
Spend Time with Friends
Spend time with friends who understand what you’re going through and talk about your feelings openly without shame or guilt (it helps!).
Hold on to Memories
Finally, remember that while your children may be gone physically, they will always be with you emotionally—so cherish those memories!
No matter how prepared you think you are for your children growing up and leaving home, chances are that empty nest syndrome could still hit you like a ton of bricks if it does happen. It can feel overwhelming at first but know that this too shall pass! There are lots of ways to cope with empty nest syndrome—all it takes is some self-care and patience (and maybe a few tears here & there). Hang in there! You got this!
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